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The advice given in this book is incredible. It starts off on what you should do when you meet/date guys, but as you get deeper into the book, it's really about how to have dignity and having your OWN life.and most importantly, that you are first, he is second. Incredible advice. Every woman must read this.
It's also a guide for those of us who are absolutely clueless as to what to do in regards to situational dating. Why do men love b's. This is the question the author poses and gets some pretty good answeres. It is all about holding your own and not becoming a doormat, which can be such a slippery slope. I will recommend this one to other women simply because it can help a girl become more positive and powerful in her own right.
Argov mentions that men don't "get it" when you simply explain what is wrong. Use discernment folks. Indeed, some of the advice Argov mentions is exageratted, but that is to get the readers attention and to snap them out of their man pleasing ways. It taught me that, whatever happens in a relationship, I will always be ok because I would take care of myself-I would be in control of myself. It is not bad to be nice or want to please others, but it becomes a serious problem when you begin to loose yourself in the process.
That was a wake up call for me and I will forever be grateful for Argov to present this in a clear straightforward way. I would like to believe that at some point, after you have been a "bitch" for a while, the man actually develops some genuine caring/loving feelings for you and THAT stops him from doing anything disrespectful or hurtful to you-because he is listening to his HEART.So women, you can really win with this book. I am a Libra with a Libra ascendant-I was born to be nice and please everyone.I also seemed to attract men with very strong personalities that are described in this book-they always have a "me first" attitude. They need proof from you-you showing that you won't tolerate something or that you are not happy about an aspect of your relationship.
Adjust the advice to your particular situation. Although I will get treated the way that I deserve using that advice in this book, I wonder if that is a person I would want to pursue a relationship with in the first place. Indeed, you show others how to treat you. I believe that many women simply don't understand this because they are working from their emotional centers, not the logical one that men are. Know when to walk away as Argov suggests.
This is a fantastic book for those that are doormats and don't know it. Don't go practicing her advice in a gun ho fashion. I wish that the author would make that clearer for the readers. I also want to say that some of the "men" that would do these things are actually little boys.The men described in this book are the opposite of gentlemen and really, have no respect for women. He is thinking "If things are so bad, why is she still with me.". I also wish that the author would have stressed to be yourself. This book shows several ways we women sabatoge ourselves in relationships trying to make the other happy at our expense-and I am embarassed that I did all of the No-Nos in this book.
Use the advice as ways to IMPROVE yourself, not become somebody you are not. This is the reason why the women who is with the man she wants to marry, but is not changing his immature ways ultimately never gets what she wants because she chooses to stay with him. He therefore sees no reason to change. You won't allow a jerk to treat you badly, but you will also come to a point that you KNOW that person isn't with you because of his heart. For some women, I understand that you really have to fake it to make it, and that is ok, but over time you should grow into a woman who incorporates the advice in an effortless way with confidence.
I did everything wrong. I'm there for him when I need him. I found this book not only informative but also entertaining. It was correct in saying he would quickly grow tired of you and walk away. I also recommend the book "You Lost Him at Hello" by Jess McCann. I called the guy the next day, I was there for him whenever he needed me, I drove to his house all the time. Now that I have read the book and understand the errors of my ways, I no longer hang on to the guy.
Yes, they call me wanting to know whats going on. I just got out of a long term relationship and was ready to start dating again. It is amazing how much it works. Yes all shameful things, but i'm only telling you this to prove a point about the book. That was exactly what he did. It is so nice to have to the ball in my court. I found that these two books complemented each other very well.
This book is great. Don't listen to the male opinion of it, they don't realize that this stuff actually does work on them. Honestly, it's pretty much common sense, laid out in a humorous fashion.
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